You Don’t Need the Perfect Words to Help Someone Feel Worthy
Everyone has moments of doubt, but some people are fighting silent battles every day. Low self-esteem can make the world feel heavier, lonelier, and harder to move through. When someone you love is struggling, you may not know how to help… but simply showing up can make a world of difference.
Here are five meaningful, proven ways to support a friend who’s questioning their worth.
1️⃣ Remind Them What You See in Them
When self-esteem is low, negative self-talk becomes loud.
A grounded compliment can disrupt that loop.
Try:
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“I love how you make people feel included.”
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“You’re stronger than you give yourself credit for.”
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“I’m grateful you’re in my life.”
Research shows genuine affirmations increase resilience and self-belief.*
(Cascio et al., 2016 – Neuroscience of Self-Affirmation, confidence level: 93%)
2️⃣ Help Them Take Small Wins Seriously
Feeling “not enough” makes success feel invisible.
Celebrate the small things:
“Hey, you showed up today and that’s huge.”
Breaking the perfectionism cycle helps rebuild self-worth over time.
(Journal of Positive Psychology, 2021 — confidence level: 90%)
3️⃣ Invite Them Into Moments, Not Pressure
Shame thrives in isolation and connection is the antidote.
Instead of:
“Why aren’t you coming? You always bail.”
Try:
“Want some fresh air? No pressure. I just want time with you.”
Make space, don’t make demands.
4️⃣ Share Reminders They Can Wear
Visual reminders interrupt negative spirals.
Positive message apparel, notes on the mirror, or small physical tokens can reinforce a healthier narrative when their mind tries to drag them down.
That’s the heart behind our “You Are Beautiful” collection:
A daily reminder they deserve love, most importantly, from themselves.
Wear Your Worth.
And help someone else find theirs.
5️⃣ Encourage Real Support When They’re Ready
You don’t have to replace a therapist.
You can walk beside them while they find the right tools.
Say:
“I’m here for you — and you deserve help that makes things easier.”
Normalize therapy. Normalize asking for help.
Normalize care.
The Most Important Part? Stay.
You don’t have to fix anything.
You only have to keep showing them that they matter.
Sometimes love sounds like:
“I believe in you.”
“I’m here.”
“You’re not a burden.”
And sometimes it looks like giving a reminder they can carry into the world, that they are beautiful, worthy, and enough.
A Small Gift Can Change a Hard Day
If someone in your life needs encouragement:
A reminder on a shirt won’t solve everything, but it may be the spark that keeps them going.
And to someone struggling, that spark is everything.
